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Panelists will explore gender dynamics in romantic relationships (issues and how are people are navigating the challenges), the polarity of sexual erotic charge when partners have a more balanced feminine and masculine within (gender-fluid or not), and share observations from their work with queer, trans and non-binary couples about how gender dynamics play out in their relationships.

In this experiential session we will first examine some common myths, stereotypes and assumptions about gender in families relationships. We will consider all types of relationships and families, including friendships, parenting, kinship circles, families of choice and so on. We will take time to observe how rigid gender binaries limit not only the ways in which we love ourselves but also the ways in which we love those around us.

We'll be talking about things like: What if Compersion isn't something to 'acquire', but rather, innate to who we are as humans? What's the relationship between the nervous system and experiences of Compersion? How (and why) White Supremacy Culture creates obstacles to compersion. How Somatic Anti-oppression principles and practices can help us grow more capacity for Compersion.

This episode brings two leading powerhouses of gender, trauma and their intersections with sex and pleasure. In this episode we look at the notion of intersectionality and how pleasure is informed by so much more than whats in our pants. You can find joy and pleasure after trauma and why generic sex advice can often make things worse for us than we intend.

What do we mean when we say 'relationship'? How do we separate our needs and desires from norms and expectations? How can we approach our relationships with mutuality, care and compassion? This down-to-earth guide is the ultimate companion for anybody who wants to examine their place in the world -- how we relate to ourselves, and others.

One of the keynotes for the 3rd International Non-Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies Conference (Barcelona, Spain. Novembe 2019). Alex Iantaffi and MJ Barker read extracts of the relationship chapter from their new book Life Isn't Binary and discuss a different approach to love and relationships.