how to understand your relationships
with Alex Iantaffi, LMFT, Transforming Perspectives LLC
A 12-week coaching container for exploring, practicing, and transforming how you relate. Live + online.
Relationships are not just something we “have.” They’re something we practice.
And yet—
Most of us learned about relationships through:
family dynamics we didn’t choose
cultural scripts we didn’t question
systems shaped by colonialism, capitalism, and normativity
So it makes sense if:
you feel stuck in patterns you don’t fully understand
you want something different, but don’t know what that looks like
you’re trying to build relationships that feel more aligned, but keep hitting old habits
This space isn’t about “fixing” you.
It’s about understanding what shaped you—and practicing new ways of relating.
Mentorship pathways:
Queering Sex & Relationship Therapy & Coaching
For practitioners who want to center queerness not just as identity, but as a political lens.
This includes work with:
Trans and queer clients
Non-monogamous clients
Kinky clients
Cultural renegades
Those diverging from normative relational scripts
We approach queerness as divergence from compulsory norms around sex, relationships, family, embodiment, and power.
This is not “affirming.” This is actively de-centering normative frameworks.
Somatic Sex & Relationship Therapy and Coaching
For practitioners who want to integrate somatic education, skills, and interventions into their work.
We will explore:
Trauma-informed somatic approaches
Working with individuals and relational systems
Embodiment in couples, polycules, and families
Integrating movement into therapeutic space
Nervous system literacy in relational dynamics
Somatics here is not trend-driven. It is systemic, relational, and accountable.
Centering Disability Justice in Sex & Relationship Practice
For practitioners who want to infuse disability justice principles into every aspect of their work.
This includes:
Access as practice
Capacity-honoring models
Anti-ableist relational frameworks
Interdependence
Political and structural analysis
This is not about accommodation as afterthought.
It is about disability justice as foundation.
Deepening Our Practice
For experienced practitioners seeking relational, reflective, trauma-informed mentorship.
This pathway begins wherever you are right now.
It is designed to:
Strengthen your clinical and ethical discernment
Expand systemic thinking
Support sustainability and longevity
Reduce isolation in advanced practice
This is for those who want depth, not performance.
What to expect:
Every month, you will receive:
2-hour mentorship group meeting
1 hour of individual support
Up to 1 hour asynchronous support (text or voice memo via Signal)
Up to 3 hours of open office hours
That is up to 7 hours per month of direct mentorship support.
Structure & commitment:
Cohorts begin once a minimum of 4 participants are enrolled.
Group meetings occur Mondays
9–11am PST
10am–12pm MST
11am–1pm CST
12–2pm EST
5–7pm GMT
If enrolling as an existing group (4–6 practitioners), alternate scheduling can be explored.
Minimum commitment: 3 months
Preferred commitment: 6 months
This is to maintain container integrity and relational continuity.
In addition:
Quarterly 3-hour workshop aligned with your pathway
CE opportunities (including AASECT CEs when relevant; Transforming Perspectives is an AASECT-approved CE provider)
20% discount on CE workshops while enrolled
This mentorship is led by a practitioner with:
Over two decades of clinical and international experience
Award-winning publications
International recognition as scholar and educator
Lived experience as a trans, queer, polyamorous, kinky, neurodivergent, disabled person
Experience as parent, therapist, supervisor, and cultural worker
Lived experience is not a marketing bullet here. It informs the work.
access & care:
All meetings include:
Closed captions
No requirement to have video on
Space to share additional access needs
Access is not an afterthought. It is foundational to the container.
investment
If you live outside the United States and this pricing is not aligned with your local economy — even at the community rate — please reach out. We can explore a sustainable option together.
20% discount offered to pre-formed groups (4–6 participants) enrolling together at the sustainer or supporter rate.
To balance accessibility and sustainability, pricing follows a three-tier model (inspired by Alexis J. Cunningfolk’s green bottle framework):
Community Rate — $650/month For those with less access to financial resources
sustainer Rate — $850/month For those with stable financial access
supporter Rate — $1050/month For those with greater access to wealth & institutional support
applying to the mentorship
If you are interested in one or more mentorship pathways:
Complete the application form below
Or book a free 20-minute exploratory call
The application will ask for:
Name
Pronouns
Positionalities you’d like to share
Mentorship pathway(s) of interest
Why you are interested in this mentorship program
Whether you need a reduced rate (honor system; no proof required)
Access needs
Anything else you’d like to share
This is a mutual discernment process.
Not everyone is a fit for every cohort — and that is intentional.
If This Resonates
This mentorship is for practitioners who:
Want rigor without rigidity
Political analysis without dogma
Depth without performance
Community without bypassing complexity
If that feels aligned, you’re invited to apply.